10 Best Examples of Modern Wedding Vows: A Contemporary Guide

By Kristen AnistonOct 31, 2024

The Perfect Length for Modern Wedding Vows

Generally, a wedding planner or officiant would recommend that your vows be anywhere from 45 seconds to 2 minutes in length spoken.

This generally means:

About 150-250 words
About 3-5 key promises
1-2 personal references or memories
Clear opening and closing statement

10 Best Modern Wedding Vow Examples

Modern Wedding Vows for Her

1. The Heartfelt Promise

"[Partner's name], since the rainy day we met, you have been my best friend and biggest supporter-favorite person. I promise to love you through all seasons of life-to fiercely support your dreams like I do my own and to build a home filled with laughter and understanding. Today and every day, I choose you over Netflix marathons and on life's biggest adventures. "

2. The Modern Partnership

"I come to you as my whole self, bringing all my dreams and determination. I promise to be your equal partner in all things, to share life's joys and challenges, and to always find reasons to dance with you in our kitchen. You're not my missing piece-you're my chosen companion, and I'll choose you every day."

3. The Authentic Promise

"From that awkward first date to this day, you have made me laugh, think, and grow. I pledge to bring my whole self into our marriage, to support your autonomy and share my own, and together navigate the plot twists that come our way. You are my favorite person to annoy, my best friend, and my home."

4. The Plain Truth

"I love you for who you are and who we become together. I promise to share big moments, little victories, face challenges as your teammate, and hold hands with you, choosing joy every day. You make ordinary days extraordinary, and I simply can't wait to build our life together."

5. The Real Love

"In you, I have found my best friend and greatest adventure. I love you for the busy mornings and quiet evenings, to share your dreams and explore my own, with every reason remembered as to why I have fallen in love with you. You are my favorite what-if that came into reality."

Modern Wedding Vows for Him

1. The Genuine Heart

"[Partner's name], you have shown me what true partnership means. I promise to grow with you, share your struggles and triumphs, be your biggest supporter, and above all, your honest friend. I'll love you through all of our chapters, from lazy Sundays to some of life's biggest challenges."

2. The Equal Partner

"I choose you as my partner in all things. I promise to share the burdens and adventures of life equally with you, to communicate openly even when hard, to create a home where we can grow together. You make me better out of love for me just the way I am."

3. The Authentic Commitment

"From teammates, to soulmates, you've become my favorite person. I promise to show up in this relationship, celebrate your independence, and stand together as your equal every day. When I'm with you, I'm home, and that's a choice I get to make every day. There's no one else I'd rather make that choice than you."

4. The Simple Promise

You're my best friend, but most importantly, you are my favorite person to annoy. I promise to grow with you, laugh with you, and build a life that is filled with adventure and an understanding of one another. I choose you today and every tomorrow through whatever life throws our way-be it good, bad, or something in between.

5. The Modern Love

"In you, I've found my perfect match and greatest supporter. I promise to be your partner in all things, to share both the work and rewards of our life together, and to always remember that we're a team. You make every day better just by being you."

Keeping the Vows Short: Tips

1. More Quality, Less Quantity

Promise two or three things that mean something rather than a whole list of things.
Use one specific memory or inside reference.
Reduce words to make vows concise, without losing emotional impact of words.

2. Structure Your Vows